Tackling Tough Issues for Entrepreneurs with Josh Cary
Josh Cary spent 40 years in hiding. He says he hid every aspect of himself, showing up with a mask on in all areas of life trying to gain the approval of everyone else. At 19, he changed his name and entered what would become a 15-year career as a professional actor and filmmaker. But the applause and external accolades didn't completely heal his feelings of anxiety and insecurities and he found himself more isolated than ever.
Fast forward to today, and Josh helps his clients unmask themselves by leading them through poignant, important, and direct questions… resulting in a profound and honest experience that reveals aspects, desires, and philosophies within them that have been dormant for years.
Josh also hosts the podcast, The Hidden Entrepreneur Show, where he sits with entrepreneurs, creatives, and small businesses owners who were also once in the darkest of places. In other words, he helps them understand and share their story.
“We’re all so amazingly awkward, it’s not even funny… You are not a perfect specimen. But you are.” - Josh Cary on authenticity and story
Leaving a Legacy Through Our Relationships
Josh and his wife have been married a while, and have two wonderful children. But it hasn’t always been easy. From the time his girlfriend (who he eventually married) called to tell him she was pregnant, to the moment he realized that his wonderful children had begun to mirror his behaviors good and bad, Josh says his blessed life is exactly what he wants. However, he also realized that if he didn’t deal with his baggage and live healthy - mentally, physically and emotionally - his legacy would not be positive.
Josh got to the point where he decided he didn’t want to show up desperate, insecure and “less than” as a dad and husband.
“They’re just these perfect beings. They are all kinds of fun… and loving… and I’m watching it but still kicking and screaming. And then my kids are saying ‘Oh okay so that’s how you react to situations, got it.’” - Josh Cary on parenting and self-awareness
Are You Ready, Willing, and Able?
When working with his clients, Josh talks about being ready, willing, and able to take an action. Whatever that looks like for the client. Being ready means the timing is right for you to do what you’re wanting to do. It means taking a look at what you stand to lose and what you stand to gain if you choose not to do it right now. Timing.
Now, if you’re standing on a diving board and you’re ready to dive head first into the pool - the timing is right - then the willing part asks if you’re willing to accept all possible outcomes of your dive.
The final part is whether you’re able to take that step to do what you desire to do. Can you do it? Change the stories in your head to be ready, willing and able.
“It’s almost like our default setting is to run from it. In our heads, we make up stories and think about all the things that could go wrong. We just have to change that story.” - Josh Cary on owning your story
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